Tuesday, May 10, 2011

Dating and other random bullshit.

So remember how I said my parents would never set me up on Match.com?


Well, now I'm not so sure. Probably not on match.com, because they apparently don't want me to find someone to love... I was having my weekly Castle date with them on Monday, and we were talking about my blog and the entry where Amy threatened to set me up a profile. We began discussing my re-entry into the dating world -

Or, let's face it, it should be entry into the dating world. Erf and I met and began dating when I was 16, I've never really 'dated' anyone before.

- and I told my parents that I don't plan on getting married again anytime soon, and therefore I am not looking for someone to be in a real relationship with. I want, like any other sane (or insane) woman who finds herself single after being with one person for so long, to date. I want to be asked out on dates, I want someone who will buy me dinner, I want the confidence boost of knowing that I'm wanted by someone. If I ever do settle down again, I don't want the nagging fear and doubt following me wherever I go...

Am I with this person because I don't think anyone else could possibly want me? Is there anyone else who finds me attractive?

Not that I particularly find either of those statements to be in the resounding negative, but I've always wondered.

(Here comes the self-centered retrospective where I sound pathetic... FYI.)

Back in high school (which, in the words of a friend, high school fucking sucked anyway), I was hardly ever hit on. I had two serious boyfriends and one not very serious boyfriend. Maybe I radiated that oh-so-sexy, 'serial-monogamist' vibe. I have no idea. But whether the guy-like glitch in my brain just didn't pick up on it or it just wasn't there, I never saw longing glances. Never saw myself get checked out. Never noticed flirtation. There was a guy I was and still am good friends with that indicated interest, but he was pretty obvious about it. I couldn't have missed it if I tried.

So all of this planted that seed of doubt. Why didn't guys seem to check me out? Why have I never once been asked out since Erf? Not that I would have said yes while we were together, of course, but the sentiment would have counted. I would have been flattered. My head would have tilted from the inflation. Alas, nada.

Perhaps that guy-like glitch causes me to miss anything less subtle than a sledgehammer to the cerebral cortex. Or maybe I'm just over paranoid. I think I'm pretty, (and I'm not looking for reassurance here) and I see no reason why I shouldn't have been at least asked out once. I know I can be quite intimidating, but I've got a great rack and nice eyes. What the hell, guys?

So anywho, I want to know I'm wanted. That a guy found me and my charisma attractive enough to ask out. That my brash exuberance isn't a deterrent. Jesus, I sound like a fucking nutjob. I want to slap my own face and tell myself , 'Stop being such a fucking douche canoe!'

So my parents tell me that I should get married again... But this time, I should marry for money. Because dammit, someone needs to take care of them in their old age.

I responded that they should be nice to me, since I'll be the one picking their nursing home. And if they're nice, I'll put them in one with nice big rats they can chase down to eat.

Also, I'd like to give my awesome, fabulous parents a shout out. They gave me the coolest birthday gifts I never would have thought to ask for...

A bottle of Silver Patron and Jagermeister, and a coupon for $100 toward a new mattress that I've been needing since I moved in.

As they eloquently phrased it, 'Something to make you pass out, and something to pass out on.'

I love my parents. They are wicked awesome.

Erflet and I went hiking on a local trail, and my back and leg muscles are still a little stiff. I haven't done any real hiking since the fall, and I missed it so much. There were a few gorgeous scenic overlooks that we stopped at, all of them overlooking the bay and harbor of Lake Superior, the Aerial Lift Bridge and Ely's Peak. I can't wait to take him hiking again, I'm hoping that this Sunday it's gorgeous out. Or maybe next Wednesday, if I my new tech is comfortable enough to close alone.

I'm thinking of starting the Superior Hiking Trail at a different trail head, or perhaps wandering around Gooseberry Park up near Silver Bay.

Either way, its something fun, healthy, and a great bonding time for me and my son. I love that little guy so much. He's the love of my life... :)

6 dished:

Noel said...

Marry for money......lol that way when you feel down you can go buy sparkle shoes! yes I maybe biased but you are GORGEOUS, FUN, WITTY, AMAZING AT COMEBACK( you have shut your father up a few times) You are intelligent maybe that is what they are afraid of a massive rack and brains....they might not be able to handle it all!!! My take, it will happen when it is supposed to and you are never alone with us and erflet!!!

MidgetMurphy said...

You are very beautiful and anyone that doesn't see that is blind. I wish only the best for you and I know that some day, someone will see you (and (to quote you) that amazing rack and your amazing eyes) and do a double take and know that they have to have you.

Anonymous said...

Lady face, you're right, high school sucked huge balls :) Also, I have to agree with your mom and marry for money. It's not so much fun being the sugar mama, and you deserve to be taken care of!

I love your face mucho :) You'll find men, plenty of them, and they all be clamoring to get inside you ;)

-D

Sassy Pie said...

@Mom - You are biased, but that doesn't mean you're not right. :) I don't feel alone, I just want to feel wanted by someone I'm not related to and haven't pushed out of my crotch. ;)

@Midget - *blushes* Thanks. :)

@D - Your comment made me seriously LOL today. Thanks for the smile, doll!

Noel said...

from the baby gravy giver: "Just be patient when you're looking for someone it never happens. Cupid donkey punches you when you least expect it. Don't try so hard it will come, if you're lucky..over and over and over again. And I agree with mom"

Sassy Pie said...

You agree with mom because you know that bitches be agreeing with momma if bitches know what be best for bitches. ;)